Affirmations for Kids: Imprinting the Right Beliefs
Adults benefit from positive affirmations, and kids do too! Since most self-limiting beliefs originate in childhood, you can give your children a head start on abundance, happiness and a great life with a daily dose of positive self-talk.
Young kids, just like adults, love to hear positive statements about themselves, especially when spoken aloud by people whom they love and respect.
As a parent, you are your children’s most influential role model. Your behaviors and words can empower our kids or disempower them. Teach your children the power of positive self-talk by doing it yourself, in their presence.
Positive affirmations for kids will help your children overcome fears and be more confident. It will influence their outlook, behavior and results.
How to Use Affirmations for Best Results
To get the most of emotions, teach your children (by example) to say affirmations in a happy, enthusiastic voice, with a smile on their face. Halfhearted mumbled affirmations do absolutely no good.
Make saying affirmations fun, not a chore. Emphasize how good they’ll feel afterward!
Say affirmations in the present tense (as though the desired situation is already real) and in the positive. Not: “I am not dumb” because your focus is on the negative or, “I will do well in this class” because that is future-oriented. Instead, prompt the child’s mind to accept and create success NOW with an affirmation like, “I am smart and I am a fast learner.”
Teach the importance of “I am” statements. Whenever a child says “I am tired” or “I am angry” they are creating those states within themselves (it’s more than just an expression of how they feel, it’s an embodiment of that energy). It’s OK to say “I am” (a positive emotion) so that they embody that energy; but when it comes to negative emotions, teach them to say, “I feel (angry, sad, etc.).”
Even very young children can be taught affirmations. Just tailor the language and concepts to their age, vocabulary and specific needs!
- Make it a game! Use flip cards and practice memorization at the same time – have the child memorize one affirmation; then flip a card and add another, and have the child repeat both; and then keep adding one affirmation at a time. This reinforces the earlier affirmations, and makes it a fun challenge.
- Make up affirmation songs. Use the flip cards as inspiration, and sing them aloud to a tune.
- Combine a child’s love for learning how to write, read and draw, to teach affirmations. They’re so excited about learning to read and write and writing/drawing/reading an affirmation will help reinforce it.
- Make affirmations into “Magic phrases” – like in Harry Potter – except that every single one is a positive, uplifting “good magic” (It’s essential that you stress the importance ofnever speaking “bad magic” because the energy will hurt the one who says it more than the one it’s intended at, just like slapping someone hurts the hand of the one doing the slapping). Positive affirmations will have magical effects on children in changing how they feel about themselves and perceive their world.
- There are plenty of wonderful, affirming children’s books on the market. Read these at bedtime, so the idea has a chance to “sink in” during sleep.
- Play “add a word.” Start with a short affirmation, such as “I am nice.” Add a word to that, for example “creative” to make “I am nice and creative.” Add another word, for example “a good friend.” Now repeat the affirmation in its entirety: “I am nice, creative, a good friend…” and add another positive statement, and another, and another.
- Teach a child to self-soothe using affirmations in any situation – make it their superpower that they can use to “morph” their mind from sad to happy, from scared to confident and from lonely to friendly.
Affirmations for Kids
The following affirmations sound natural and are comfortable for a child to say. They are short and sweet and simpler than adult affirmations. For example, an adult might use an affirmation like, “I learn from my challenges and find ways to overcome all obstacles” – that is too much for a child to say. Most of all, make them fun to say!
- I am great.
- I have lots of friends.
- I am a good friend.
- I am a fast learner.
- I am full of good ideas.
- I’m a good listener.
- I am good at… (here, you can customize the affirmation to your child’s needs).
- I always do my best.
- I believe in me.
- I am kind to other people.
- I am a good helper.
- I am important.
- I make good choices.
- I’m a good sport.
- I ask good questions.
- I can do it!
- I am a good boy/girl.
- I am unique and special.
- I am very creative.
- I play well with other kids.
- I can do anything I set my mind to.
- I love myself.
- My dreams are important.
- I listen to my heart.
- I am loved.
- I am calm and relaxed.
- I make friends easily.
- I am friendly.
- I’m lucky!
- People feel happy when they see me.
Feel free to add simple affirmations that you and your child create together.
Use bedtime to finish out the day with a heaping dose of loving, positive energy. Substitute “You” for “I” and read the list of affirmations to your child to lull them to sleep. We all tend to believe what other people say about us more so than what we say about ourselves and kids are no exception! You could say, “My beautiful child, as you drift off to sleep, know that I love you. You are perfect just the way you are. You are healthy. You are strong. You are such a good friend! You are kind. You are smart. You love learning. You are happy. You are peaceful. I love you…” and so on.